# Your Manager Is Not Your Best Friend | Stay SaaSy

<https://staysaasy.com/management/2025/06/02/your-manager-is-not-your-best-friend.html>

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## What Jamie wrote

Particularly focused article on commiserating as a manager. Some would call this venting. 

> But commiseration, especially with your direct reports, is organizational poison. It erodes the fabric of an organization and builds factions. It leads to feelings of superiority and creates a low-trust environment -- _even if what you're complaining about is made up!_ Worst of all, it doesn't give other teams an opportunity to improve.

It is a good read and spot on. And nobody, truly nobody, is perfect here. I know I've slipped into this spot at times. But being aware and thinking through the follow-on issues is a good reminder of what to be careful about as a leader.

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