# How to be a man | Psyche Guides

<https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-be-a-man-who-has-inner-strength-and-emotional-resilience>

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## What Jamie wrote

I found this article compelling. I might [read the book](https://www.harpercollins.com/products/better-boys-better-men-andrew-reiner?variant=32116407238690) as well. 

> In research for my book, I asked many boys and men where they turned for emotional support. For those who confided in a male friend, the approaches were often similar – they carefully vetted the problems they shared, typically sticking to problems that might not lead to judgment or rejection (‘targeted transparency’ I call it). Always, they received advice and solutions for problems from these male friends. Again, I’d ask, where did they turn for emotional support? Their response: to female friends, girlfriends, mothers, wives. Or they handled it themselves. Why didn’t they turn to male friends? The most common reasons were that they feared their friends wouldn’t feel comfortable discussing such things, or they didn’t want to ‘burden’ anyone with their problems. So, to keep everything ‘chill’, many males stick to bonding with buddies over beer and sports or other activities that can prevent us from developing deeper emotional trust and intimacy.

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