# How to Talk With a Struggling Adolescent — Crucial Skills

<https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/2020/09/how-to-talk-with-a-struggling-adolescent/>

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## What Jamie wrote

I took Crucial Conversations training at SPS. This article about applying these skills to a conversation with your child was really good.

> In order to help your son and restore your relationship, remember to:
> 
> 1. Start With Heart: Know what you really want for him.
> 2. Validate His Feelings: Let him know it’s okay for him to feel the way he does.
> 3. Be Curious: Ask, listen, mirror, listen, prime, listen, ask…
> 4. Declare Your Intent: Let him know what you really want.
> 
> Be patient. It won’t happen overnight. It will take time, consistency, and persistence.

This would be a good article to go and read when needed.

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