# Don't soften feedback. | Lara Hogan

<https://larahogan.me/blog/dont-soften-feedback/>

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## What Jamie wrote

Hogan with advice that every manager and leader needs to hear repeatedly. The thing to keep in mind is that while it is difficult for you, the feedback giver, it is better for the recipient, and is more likely to produce success.

> Managers risk defaulting to softened feedback when they’re afraid of adding even more pressure to their teammate who’s suffering. I get it! They don’t want to make it worse, and they truly care about their teammate’s health and wellbeing. But again, softening feedback to this degree will make the work to come much more challenging for this teammate.

Many concepts of [Radical Candor](https://www.radicalcandor.com) here.

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